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Why don't YOU tell me some of the things you've learning in your lifetime.  Share with us the good, the bad, and the ugly things that have built you into the person you are today.


Why don’t YOU tell me some of the things you’ve learning in your lifetime. Share the good, the bad, and the ugly things that have built you into the person you are today.

Well here we are.  Tomorrow is the day.  The dreaded birthday.  I’ve tried and tried to think of something important and philosophical to say.  Certainly at this advanced age

I’ve gained some wisdom I can share with you all.  And what kind of writer am I if I give you nothing?!  GASP!

I really don’t have a clue what to tell you.  Looking back I can clearly see my mistakes and successes. Mistakes that hurt me and others.  Those that led to an entirely different life that what God probably had planned for me.  Those that continue to hurt me (see Ch-Ch-Changes).  But what has been learned from the mistakes and the successes?

Let’s see if I can come up with a short list…in no particular order:

1) Use your brain! My mom used to say “If in doubt…don’t”.  Damn if she wasn’t right (oh that hurts).  If your gut and your brain are telling you “NOOOO!” then it’s wrong and you should not even go there.  It’s your conscience, your built-in sense of right and wrong.  It’s God.  Teenagers are good at ignoring that inner voice that screams NO and listening to the outer voices that say “go for it”.  Pause and think, and most often you’ll hear the voice telling you it’s wrong.  Listen to it.  In 30 years you’ll be glad you did.

2) Take good care of yourself physically!  If you are going to eat whatever you want while you’re young…we all do… then keep active.  Work it off.  And don’t stop as you get older.  KEEP MOVING!

3) Never stop saying “I love you” to those closest to you.  Even when you hate your parents…and we all do…suck it up and say “I love you”.  Something I’m still learning.

4) Have faith. No matter what your family background, find a place to learn and worship God.  It matters.  It matters to your spirit and soul.  It matters to your family.  It matters to your community.

5) In connection to point number four, never stop studying.  My church holds a weekly Bible study.  Most who attend the morning class are older folks.  We have one dear old soul who is 88-years-old.  This week she didn’t attend the church Bible study because she was leading a different study at her retirement residence.  It made me wonder what this women who was a pastor’s wife, a foreign missionary, is a regular church attender, and an every day Bible reader could possibly have left to learn.  Maybe that’s why she chose to teach that day?  I’ll have to ask her and see what wise words she offers us.  Stay tuned!

6) Separate from point number five, keep learning.  Someone once said “you learn something new every day”.  You really do.  Or you should.  Life has a way of teaching us lessons when we least expect it.  We learn from life experiences, from our parents, from our children, from our friends.  We learn in organized ways like school or reading.  Keep learning.

7) Be nice and use your manners!  Smile, say “please” and “thank you”, be polite.  No matter how crappy  your day is, or how awful you feel.  First, it makes you feel a little better.  Second, the person you’re dealing with may very well be having a much worse day.  Nice matters!

8) Don’t take yourself or life too seriously.  Lighten up.  Unclench. Life is messy and you’re going to look foolish now and again.  At this stage of the game even my granddaughter laughs at my forgetfulness.  If I don’t laugh with her, I’m doomed.

THERE’S MORE – PLENTY MORE!   But this is getting to be a long blog.  Why don’t YOU tell me some of the things you’ve learning in your lifetime.  Share with us the good, the bad, and the ugly things that have built you into the person you are today.

You won’t see me tomorrow.  It’s the big day and I have to find my black clothing to wear to dinner.  Juuuust kidding.  Have a great weekend!

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